Social media is good but when couples live on social media in can harm your relationship and your sex life by giving wrong perception of how your partner is meant to be like. According to experts, an unhealthy fixation with social media affects how connected you are to your partner in the bedroom.
Catherine Donaldson-Evans from SheKnows lists 7 ways social media could make
your relationship crumble.
1.
It
can make sex feel dull: If you're
getting a lot of your daily excitement from checking Facebook, Twitter,
Instagram and Tumblr, then "real-world" activities like sex might
start to lose their sheen and feel boring in comparison. "A 'virtual'
relationship can be enticing and stimulating. It's ever-present and you can
engage at any time!" says licensed couples therapist Jeanette Raymond,
author of Now You Want Me, Now You Don't!. "That makes your sex life feel
more like a duty or routine experience."
2.
It
can make you think everyone else is having better sex than you are: People love to sugar-coat pretty much
everything on social media and make it seem like their lives are a lot more
perfect than they actually are. That includes how they portray their
relationships and the sex they're having. The influence of social media is so
powerful that you might actually believe everyone else is in better
relationships and having better sex than you and your guy are. But it's
deceptive, and it's dangerous to buy into all that idealism.
3.
It
can distract you when you're between the sheets: If all you can think about when you're
getting it on is what people are posting on your favorite social media
accounts, that's a red flag that it's distracting you from enjoying or engaging
in sex. "You might be thinking of what your friends on social media are up
to, saying about you or even how to tell them about your stuff when you are
engaged in sex, making sex an unappetizing experience," Raymond says.
4.
It
takes time away from having sex: Social media is time-consuming. Incredibly
time-consuming. And if you're addicted, then an inordinate amount of your day
and night will be devoted to it. That means less time for your relationship —
and sex. "When you get more juice from a photo that someone has posted of
you or is tagging you in, then you are not going to want to make time for
romance and sex," Raymond says. "It's like you have to transition
back into the real world and 'miss out' on other stuff."
5.
Sex
becomes just another thing to brag about on social media: If you're finding you're having sex just to
post about it on social media, that's a major warning sign. "Sex just
becomes a 'thing' to do that is then used to either talk about in terms of a
trophy, its quality (as if it were an ice cream!) and who is getting what from
whom," says Raymond.
6.
It can make you fantasize too
much about other people:Social media has turned stalking
— whether it's exes, past crushes or cute guys at work — into a pastime, and a
perfectly acceptable one at that. Because of the ease with which you can
"follow" people online, spending too much time on your various
accounts can make you fantasize about and obsess over guys other than the one
you're actually with, which makes you mentally and emotionally disconnected
from him and hurts the one real romantic relationship you
have in your life.
7.
It
can feel like cheating to your partner: If your obsession with social media runs so
deep that it's taking you away mentally and physically from your relationship,
your guy might begin suspecting that you're cheating on him. And in a way, you
are. "Your partner may sense that you are not really 'there' during sex
and get upset," explains Raymond. "He or she may think you are
cheating — and if thoughts about checking your Twitter, Facebook or Instagram
account to see who is tagging you [are pervasive when you're sleeping
together], then it may indeed be a form of cheating."
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