FRED LATIMORE OGHENESIVWE: A CASE OF PARANOID PERSONALITY DISORDER

At every point people read Mr. Fred Latimore Oghenesivbe’s comments on what seemed to him are very important contributions to social media.  Mister Latimore, may I give you a little advice? Okay, I am not going to wait for your permission to do so and will do so, anyway.  Here is the advice: do not write about people with derogatory terms if you do not know what those terms mean.  

My guess is that somehow it got into your head that if you call people by certain derogatory names that what you said is true and would stick; you mean to put them down by giving them derogatory labels;  politics is meant to heal not to degrade (you have a need to degrade folks; why do you have that need?).

I understand that you came from a jungle where civility is not practiced and you believe that all you have to do is come to the public square and engage in name calling and that that is good enough. You need to realize that Nigerian Internet forums consist of people with different levels of education. Many members are well educated and sophisticated. Many of them actually know what words mean and often wonder why you, a supposed attorney, employ words inappropriately.

 Apparently, you use words just because they sound big in your mind; employing big words kind of makes you feel important...and you hope that those big words make you seen educated in other people’s eyes. Unbeknown to you, educated folks see you as a man who feels inordinately small and compensates with desire to be seen as big (if you have positive self-esteem you would respect people. Your not respecting people means that you do not feel respect worthy).

 Instead of taking my advice you are more likely to see it as an attack on your grandiose self-concept and self-image and react with anger at me and call me every put down name your childish vocabulary can muster. Go ahead and assault me; I am a big boy and can take your temper tantrums; however, if you physically act out I would not hesitate in requesting that you be placed on five points restraints in a psychiatric hospital; paranoid persons who feel attacked, albeit false can attack and even kill folks.

     Below is a snippet of paranoid personality disorder. 

People with paranoid personality disorder are generally characterized as having a long-standing pattern of pervasive distrust and suspicious of others.  A person with paranoid personality disorder will nearly always believe that other people’s motives are suspect or even malevolent.

Individuals with this disorder assume that other people will exploit, harm, or deceive them, even if no evidence exists to support this expectation. While it is fairly normal for everyone to have some degree of paranoia about certain situations in their lives (such as worry about an impending set of layoffs at work), people with paranoid personality disorder take this to an extreme — it pervades virtually every professional and personal relationship they have.

Individuals with Paranoid Personality Disorder are generally difficult to get along with and often have problems with close relationships. Their excessive suspiciousness and hostility may be expressed in overt argumentativeness, in recurrent complaining, or by quiet, apparently hostile aloofness.

Although they may appear to be objective, rational, and unemotional, they more often display a range of affect, with hostile, stubborn, and sarcastic expressions predominating. Their combative and suspicious nature may elicit a hostile response in others, which then serves to confirm their original expectations.

A personality disorder is an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates from the norm of the individual’s culture. The pattern is seen in two or more of the following areas: cognition; affect; interpersonal functioning; or impulse control. The enduring pattern is inflexible and pervasive across a broad range of personal and social situations. It typically leads to significant distress or impairment in social, work or other areas of functioning. The pattern is stable and of long duration, and its onset can be traced back to early adulthood or adolescence.