WHY AFRICANS KILL THEIR WIVES IN AMERICA: It Is Always Death Before Dishonour - By Jerome Niang Yakubu, SE., PE

No young African, be him or her from Nigeria, Cameroon, Ghana or Rwanda will board an airplane from his or her home country heading for Europe or the United States of America for the purpose of finding a WOMAN or MAN to MARRY .... NO AFRICAN WILL.

The NUMBER ONE major reason each and EVERY African left their homeland and crossed the Atlantic Ocean is either for EDUCATION or MONETARY PURPOSES ONLY. 

At ages 18 and 19 or so, after secondary school education, 95% of the young ones crossed the Atlantic Ocean for HIGHER EDUCATION, with nothing else in their minds but UNIVERSITIES and college DEGREES obtained from world-class universities away from their homelands. ... EACH AND EVERYONE of those who left the shores of their countries bid his or her family GOODBYE, not BYE-BYE.

Bidding one's family GOODBYE is promising them and telling them HE or SHE will RETURN back to his homeland with HIS or HER achievements and share with them the glory. It is always UNUSUAL to find any young man or woman from Africa bid his or her family BYE-BYE, meaning he or she WON'T RETURN upon completion of his or her education and obtaining all needed educational degrees.

NOBODY, he or she at age 19, upon leaving the shores of his or her country EVER had MARRIAGE to any unknown person he or she may meet abroad in his or her plan. 

Most of the time, the plan would be to finish the education and RETURN HOME and marry his or her HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEART who probably will wait for him or her throughout his or her years abroad.

NATURALLY, at age 19, everyone has already aged, grown old enough to be sexually promiscuous, meaning that the possibility of arriving in his or her destination, he or she will meet a new mate and fall in love. Yet, has a fool in his or her hometown waiting for him or her.

I will return back to the EDUCATION part of this discussion later.

Another reason why other Africans, who are in their TWENTIES or OLDER, leave their homeland is to seek a GREENER PASTURE in either Europe or North America.

Every GROWN-UP African who EVER leave his or her homeland left for a GREENER PASTURE .... MONEY, MONEY, MONEY.

No GROWN-UP African will ever leave his or her country for the purpose of FINDING A MATE TO GET MARRIED TO ... NOBODY.. .... Not a WOMAN nor a WOMAN will put marriage first before WEALTH, most of the time, the grown-up ones were already married with children before heading abroad seeking a GREENER PASTURE..

Please ask yourself, 

When you were in the first airplane that brought you to wherever you are now, far away from your homeland, WHICH WAS YOUR MAIN GOAL? ... EDUCATION, WEALTH or for the purpose of MEETING A WOMAN OR A MAN TO MARRY?.

We all know that it is NEVER easy upon arrival in our newly found home away from home in diaspora.

If the purpose was for EDUCATION, it was never easy to pass the classes.

If the purpose was for WEALTH, it was never easy to live paycheck-to-paycheck after 8-hour/day and 40-hours/week in a country where DOLLARS nor EUROS grow and fall from trees freely.

Those who came here to pursue EDUCATION worked hard to graduate and move back home and become leaders in their homelands. It is befitting for any AFRICAN to be a BIG FISH in his or her village's pond, than remain a SMALL FISH in a HUGE RIVER in the city far away from his or her homeland in Africa.

Also, those who came here to pursue WEALTH will rather make the MONEY and move back home and enjoy the WEALTH and be TREATED LIKE A KING or QUEEN, where he or she may never do his or her own laundry nor wash his or own car again. 

Unlike a rich African living in New York City, Paris, France or London, England who NOBODY GIVES A DIME about him or her, because nobody will knock on his or her door for a loaf of bread for breakfast. His or her name remains the same, his or her struggles continue everyday, He or she is just another SMALL FISH in a HUGE RIVER in any of those cities.

Please ask that African who you think he/she is rich if he drove him or her self to work or did his own laundry or not.

His or her name remains his or her name everyday, nobody will even BOW or KNEEL DOWN to greet him anywhere.

That's being a SMALL FISH in a HUGE RIVER.

Now, back to the REASON WHY AFRICANS KILL THEIR WIVES in foreign countries.

Remember, at the beginning, each African individually left his or her home seeking EDUCATION or GREENER PASTURE, none of them left his or her homeland seeking a WIFE or a HUSBAND to marry?

NATURE has its way of RE-ARRANGING one's DESTINY.

Remember, each and everyone left his or her homeland at ages ripe enough to be sexually promiscuous, NATURE will take its course and HE will meet HER and SHE will meet HIM and there they go ... FALLING IN LOVE!!!

Now,

This is why African MEN kill their wives with BULLETS blowing their wives' brains off, and African WOMEN kill their HUSBANDS in too many different ways, except that the WOMEN kill their HUSBANDS and yet keep them ALIVE breathing because their HUSBANDS' lives have been sucked out of them psychologically, whereby there's absolutely NO HAPPINESS in their marital home anymore and the HUSBAND can NOT leave, they have children or he doesn't earn ENOUGH to live alone by himself.

Here is where WAHALA begins:

The African MAN or the African WOMAN, who have succeeded in his or her EDUCATION met a MAN or WOMAN while in college and they fell in love and started making babies.

Although, After FOUR or FIVE years of being away from each others, It is always very forgiving to move-on and forget the fools who had been waiting for them (for marriage) back home in Africa, so marriage is imminent with the new strangers in their lives in diaspora. 

THE QUESTION IS .......

Did he or she meet and MARRY HIM OR HER who is from the same TRIBE, same VILLAGE, same CITY, same STETE and least acceptable, the same COUNTRY?.

Please, Do you remember how I distinguished GOODBYE and BYE-BYE?

Each and every African, upon leaving HIS or HER family house in his or her VILLAGE or CITY, or STATE, or COUNTRY promised his family to RETURN with his or her God-given WEALTH, no matter how hard he or her SWEAT to accumulate the wealth.

Upon the success, WHERE will HE or SHE return to with HIS or HER hard-earned, God-given WEALTH?

Here in the United States, where I have been residing since Yakubu Gowon was the HoS, I have seen and witnessed too many BROKEN HOMES because of SELF-CENTEREDNESS.

There's NEVER a COMPREHENSIVE HAPPINESS in any home where the HUSBAND is from Onitsha and WIFE is from Katshina, or the HUSBAND is from NIGERIA and the WIFE is from CAMEROON.

Please think DEEPLY about that and be HONEST in your judgement.

If the HUSBAND from ABIA STATE, who is a Doctor, a Lawyer or an Engineer like me, is married with children to a WIFE from KEBBI STATE, who is a Registered Nurse, a Lawyer, a Doctor and also an Engineer like me .... Trust me, that will be a HIGH-END, MONEY-MAKING family.

Their monthly dollar COMBINED MONTHLY INCOME will allow them to own and drive the most expensive and luxurious cars and live in expensive mansions anywhere in any city in diaspora with a lot of money saved in the family bank account.

All the statements above are REAL and is everyone's DREAM of a family in diaspora.

We must NOT forget that by now, BACK in Africa, where both the HUSBANDS and WIVES originated from DIFFERENT VILLAGES, different states, and worse still, different countries. INDIVIDUAL families of either the HUSBANDS or WIVES are WAITING and EXPECTING both of them to COME BACK HOME and equally DO WELL in their villages too.

The family of the HUSBAND who hails from either Onitsha of Enugu expect him to come and build a HUGE mansion in Enugu or Onitsha, while the Hausa WIFE from Katshina is also expected to bring some of her WEALTH back home and build in Katshina. .... That is when TROUBLE starts to brew in the family.

Actually, there's always NOT ENOUGH money left to immediately start building mansions in one's village upon graduation from universities and securing high-paying jobs, because no matter how high their combined earnings, COST OF LIVING will still force them to live from paycheck to paycheck, especially when they have three or four children to raise together.

However,  

An African may leave Africa, Africa will NEVER leave an Africa.

After TEN or FIFTEEN years in diaspora, every African, man or woman, is already homesick. 

That is when the HUSBAND starts to remember that no matter how hard he may try, he will still remain a SMALL FISH in a HUGE RIVER in diaspora. He thence start to discuss about building a mansion back home in Africa as his RETIREMENT HOME .... Build a mansion home? ... WHERE? ... Onitsha or Katshina? ... HUSBAND'S VILLAGE or WIFE'S VILLAGE? ... since they both contributed EQUALLY into the family's back account.

We all know that THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE ANYWHERE,

However, in diaspora, way-way far away from home, so many HUSBANDS have been rendered worthless in their homes by their wives. HUSBANDS tend to lose jobs so OFTEN in diaspora, making the WIVES the constant provider for the family.

Children are being raised by both parents, but the mothers always make the fathers seem insignificant in the minds of the children, because the children often know when the father lost his job and the mother was the main breadwinner.

Unlike back home in Africa, where the FATHER is always the KING of his kingdom and there's never a QUEEN, in diaspora, the mother is always the QUEEN in the family who expect the HUSBAND to bow for her being the constant breadwinner of the family. The wife is always supported by  9-1-1 calls and the husband's headache is further compounded.

Now, in reference to the Nigerian PHARMACIST that killed his wife and daughter in Chicago recently, two many things pointed to disaster from the beginning.....

1.  The HUSBAND was a YORUBA man, the WIFE was not ..... Difference in ethnicity.

2.  The HUSBAND was a NIGERIAN, the WIFE was a CAMEROONIAN .... Difference in country of origin.

That made them different in country of origin, state of origin, village of origin, tribe of origin and almost different in everything, except they are both AFRICANS and equally BLACK PEOPLE.

They were EQUAL educated professionals with high-end incomes, who have a 13 year-old, an 8 year-old and a 4 year old and it was time to start planning to invest their hard-earned MONEY back home and build a family mansion in Africa .... BUT WHERE? 

That is where DEATH start knocking on their door.

Being EQUAL contributor to the family bank account, the Hausa WIFE from Katshina will want to build in Katshina while the Igbo HUSBAND will want to build in Enugu. .... They both have just enough to build one mansion.

Can we imagine the CAMEROONIAN wife withdrawing every penny in the family accound and elope to Younde, CAMEROON and build a mansion in her hometown, leaving the husband nothing?

In my over 43 years in the USA, I have witnessed so many similar situation whence the wife just took the husband to the cleaner and left the husband with absolutely NOTHING in the family's bank account and build a huge mansion in the wife's city, where the husband may never even visit, talk less of spending the rest of his life in.

And when the such wife comes back to pack her belongings and the children, the husband has a SMITH & WESSON waiting to blow her brain off.

In diaspora, it is never easy to start all over. 

For a man to be taken to the cleaner at an age when he probably NEVER have another chance to accumulate wealth again, it is always DEATH BEFORE DISHONOR.

To you, reading this.

If you are not married to a spouse who share the same country, the same state, the same village and the same tribe with you and you are still here in diaspora, please ask yourself this honest question.

1. Where will you be at 80 years old?

2. Where will your current spouse be whenever she turns 80 years old?

3. Where will your children be when you are 85 years old or older, if you are lucky to live that long?

4. If you are given a gift of 5 million dollars, will you still want to remain in diaspora?

5. Regardless of how the political mess your country may be in, Will you prefer to be locked up in a NURSING HOME in diaspora or have your own MANSION in your village and live like a BIG FISH in the village pond till you die?

And last, but not the least,

If you have planned to build your own RETIREMENT mansion in your village and you've worked hard to save the money for such project and your wife sneak up on you, withdraw all the money and build a huge mansion in her hometown, far away in another country away from yours, Will you be happy or do what this guy did to his CAMEROONIAN wife?

You be the judge!!!