It is necessary to look at how best to return sanity to human relationships, especially the relationships between men and women. I think that, in the long run, things will work themselves out for the good but in the short run we have chaos in lieu of relationships.
The idea of women liberation started in earnest in the United States. During the first part of the twentieth century, African Americans struggled for racial equality. By the 1960s the US Congress had passed the landmark Civil Rights Act (1964) and Fair Housing Act (1965) that abolished discrimination in renting to black folks. It is now the laws to treat black folks as white folks are treated. De Jure discrimination ended but, of course, De-facto discrimination continued, for example, Donald Trump refused to rent his apartments to black folks and was sued in 1972.
Traditionally, white men worked like slaves for their women; they placed their women on a pedestal; they exalted their women like they are fragile crystals to be handled with care. But they did not allow their women to have political say so in society.
White women seeing that black folks have been given civil rights joined the fray and in the 1960s. The national organization for women demanded equal rights for women. Now they have it.
But they did not stop there; in academia, they formed women’s studies departments. These departments had one goal in mind, to present men as violent abusers and practitioners of patriarchy that oppressed women. Women were told that men oppressed them and treated them as sex objects. They were told to be angry at men. Thus, women believed that to be empowered is to put men down.
Women approached marriage with a chip on their shoulders. They are now gods doing men a favour in marriage. Thus, for the slightest reason, they filed for divorce. As you know, in the USA more than one in two marriages now ends in divorce. 75% of black American children are raised by single parents. The percentage in the white world is approaching that number.
Men learned their lesson and became cynical towards women. They really began treating women as sex objects: the philosophy became: fuck them and discard them; in fact, don’t even bother with relationships; if you have money you can pretty much buy sex from different women every night. As for children, who wants that financial burden? If you made a mistake and got a woman pregnant deny paternity; if finally she goes to court and insists on child support, get a fancy lawyer who can get you the best deal possible.
Women are trouble; you cannot live with them and you cannot live without them; therefore, do your best to manage them to your best advantage, is the idea. As for love, what is that? Give me a break, will ya!
Why bother having an emotional entanglement with a woman who upon the most flimsy excuse leaves you and goes to other men...worse, she calls herself a lesbian and find another woman to masturbate with.
Generally, college educated men in the USA are now cynical about women. The result is that most women above age fifty are single, alone and neurotic; these women live empty lives, lives filled with drugs, legal and illegal drugs. They are living a miserable life.
Since women tend to live longer than men and there are no men or children to take care of them they end up living alone in their old age; many of them wound up in poor houses or are homeless.
It is women that have lost the gender war that they initiated. If you see the fate of older women (most men do not want to have sex with any woman above, say, age sixty; men prefer women under age 35) you would only have pity for these female warriors that destroyed an institution that served their best interests.
Women did not realize that marriage was designed to protect women and children; it was a bargain that had little in it for men. Men typically do not want to be shackled by marriage, so the women’s liberation movement gave men permission to be themselves and abandon women and children.
My point is that women have destabilized society and there is not going to be a quick solution for it. For the next one hundred years, men and women are going to have troubled relationships and or live mostly apart.
Women are reaping what they sowed. But we must reconstruct marriages, make them stable, again; and if we fail in doing so society breaks up; society is based on marriages; without marriages, there is no stable institution to raise children.
Children raised by women alone, especially boy children tend to be unhappy campers. No boy wants to be around his mother after about age fourteen. Thus, boys in women led households leave home. In the ghettos, boy children prefer to be in the company of other boys, who, unfortunately, may be gang members rather than be with their mothers.
Boys raised without the presence of men are actually a threat to women. They did not learn to respect and protect women and upon the slightest disagreement with their girlfriends or wives beat them up, or even kill them.
The last time that I checked, boys are stronger than women. No amount of martial arts training would make the average woman able to beat the average man.
Male-female relationships have fallen apart; it will take, at least, a century to reconstruct them on a more healthy footing.
Thanks for your herculean efforts to generate sanity in broken down man-woman relationships.
Ozodi Thomas Osuji
November 22, 2018
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